RVAP 101

Types of Abuse:

  • Verbal – Put downs, name-calling, threats, spreading rumors, blaming, yelling
  • Emotional – Isolation from friends/family, Intimidation, humiliation, manipulation, suicide threats, jealousy, possessiveness, stalking
  • Physical – Hitting, slapping, shoving, choking, restraint, kidnapping, pinching, abuse of property, abuse of pets
  • Sexual – Forced sexual activity & rape, forced viewing of pornography, sabotage of birth control, non-consensual touching
  • Economic – Infringing on a job or activity that will lead to a job and independence (example: school/college)

Examples of Verbal Abuse

  • Threats to kill
  • Threats to use violence
  • Threats to children
  • Accusations of “screwing around”
  • Calling names (i.e. whore, slut, bastard)
  • Leaving nasty voice messages or text messages
  • Making insinuations
  • Giving the “silent treatment”
  • Yelling
  • Insults
  • Making critical statements, “You are dumb”, You are stupid”, You can’t do anything right”

Relationship Power Wheel

Examples of Emotional Abuse

  • Being irresponsible with money
  • Controlling access to money
  • Intense jealousy
  • Witholding sex
  • Criticizing a partner’s looks
  • Unwanted sexual demands
  • Isolating another from family and friends
  • Making fun of partner
  • Keeping partner up all night
  • Manipulating with lies
  • Threatening to leave
  • Having affairs
  • Constant questioning about activities
  • Using alcohol and/or drugs
  • Accusations of affairs
  • Not working
  • Keeping partner from working